Published 1988 by Thorsons (now HarperCollins)
ISBN: 0 7225 1567 7
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I was commissioned to write this and the next book by Thorsons publishing company as a means of widening the abuse experience and to offer an advice book for all those trying to break free. There are so many repercussions, so many difficulties given the number of agencies you need to get involved with. It's little wonder that many battered wives either stay with what they know, even if it does mean getting hurt, or else go back because of the lack of response to their need from the outside world. Living as a battered wife can be very insular, very alone. It is difficult to tread outside the boundaries and start to speak about your experience. It isn't everyone's Norm. Not everyone is going to listen or care. And always there is this belief that if you haven't turned your back at the first sign of trouble, at the first slap or kick or insult, then you are somehow enjoying it. Everyone has an opinion. It's easy to have an opinion if you haven't lived in violence and abuse. Only those with experience really know.
This book is an enabler.
It adopts a positive approach, offering a directory of helpful agencies, where to go, what to say, what will happen, what to expect after. It follows through a whole range of different people's experiences through from living in pain to freedom and taking back control.
Chapters in this book include coverage of problems associated with:
- living with violence
- preparing to leave
- children affected by violence
- coping with incest & sexual interference
- violence that may be associated with divorce
- middle class violence
- violent husbands - and wives
- living alone
- how to deal with debt